2.07.2007

The Economy of Home

Life is very much uncertain and up-in-the-air right now. I did my one last Costco trip before our membership expired, and since I'd decided against renewing, I wanted to thoroughly stock up on the few things that are actually a good buy there.

But Andy reminded me that I shouldn't get a lot of honey, because one package would probably last us until we move.

June is only four months away, and we're moving June 2.

Where is a little less certain, but the minute Andy dismisses his last class, we're packing up for someplace where we can see the stars.

I was talking to a little neighbor boy the other day, a darling little five-year-old by the name of Orion. I misheard at first, and called him "Ryan," but he quickly and distainfully set me straight.
But I was back in good graces once I said it correctly. "Oh, Orion! Like the stars!"

He looked at me in awe. "You must be the same age as my mother! She knows about the stars, too!"

I miss Orion. And Cassiopeia, and the big and little bears, and the fathomless blur of the Milky Way... but mostly Orion. I've seen him once or twice out here, so I know he does come around, but always the mighty warrior looks so wan and sickly.

I need starlight, and want it badly, but probably not enough to leave. Inertia is a powerful thing, and moving is scary. But come June 2, we're through paying Southern California rent.

So right now, as we're figuring out how we want to structure our life, I found this excellent article especially thought-provoking. (It pays off to hang out at Amy's Humble Musings. Not only does she have good things to say, but she links good places, too!)

For more on the same topic, Nancy Pearcey has some really excellent things to say.

2.06.2007

Happily Hatted


Prayer


The other night, I'm pretty sure Nathan said his first real prayer. Hard to say, I guess. He's blessed our meals a number of times, ("Thank you, Jesus. Amen"), but I'm not going to count that, because he's not so much interested in praying as in having the shortest prelude possible before diving into the grub. Our mealtime ritual is one of my favorite things about our family, but sometimes somebody is absolutely ravenous and would rather just say a quick prayer before getting to the food. And usually that somebody is Nathan.
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But the other night, Nathan definitely actually prayed.
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It was a night to teach us all to pray. Everybody was sick--draggy and lethargic and stuffy and coughing. Nathan and September napped most of the day, and Andy and I had such sweet, wonderful, precious time with Isaiah.
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When we were ready to crash out for the night, though, Nathan woke up, bright-eyed and ready to face the day, rather oblivious to the fact that it was pitch black outside, and we were all ready to sleep. We let him cuddle up with us, admonished him sternly not to squirm to much, and hoped for the best.
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Suddenly, September sat bolt upright, and began to bark, gasping frantically between the wrenching coughs.
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Nathan giggled. "Funny sound!"
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Andy gently told him that it wasn't funny, Tembo was very sick.
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We turned on the shower, and sat with Tembo in the steam. She improved immediately, but the second we would try taking her out of the steamy bathroom, she would begin to bark and gasp again. So Andy moved the cabinet out of the bathroom, and squeezed the papazan in, and we all cuddled up and read together.
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And we prayed. Oh, how we prayed.
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"God. Lord Jesus, the Timmo. Amen."
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Through the whole ordeal, Nathan was quietly alert, earnest, and compassionate. As we brainstormed about how we could get the air in the rest of the house moist enough to go back to bed and get some sleep, our little helper suggested a pot of water on the stove. Which is exactly what we did. I've always wondered why Anne-with-an-E told Diana to boil water when the baby had croup... now I know.
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She was okay. Eventually we were able to go back to sleep, even.
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She's okay. My baby's okay.
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And somehow, terrifying as it was, that's one of those days I want to frame and treasure for the rest of my life.

2.02.2007

Less talk, more pictures

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I thigk I'll stick to Where's Waldo for dow.

At least I cad prodoudce that.

2.01.2007

Of Genies and Sewing Machines, and Wisdom Calling in the Streets

Over the past few weeks I've been meditating on the Book of Proverbs. And sewing machines.

The Proverbs part has been good, and convicting, and unexpectedly comforting.

The sewing machine part has been just plain exhilirating.

I was trembling with excitement when Andy brought the old Merritt 4530 home from the thrift store. Which isn't terribly surprising. I'm a generally excitable sort of person, and any new creative outlet is bound to send me into ecstasy.

It really was surprising, though, that the whole project just got better and better. It took me a week of hard research to figure out how to work the machine, without benefit of an instruction manual, and when (with some gracious help from Marcy Koch) I finally figured out how to make it work... it didn't.

And I just got more and more excited. Or rather, my initial excitement slowly began to morph into something deeper and gladder. Really knowing a sewing machine on a deep level--even a broken one!-- turned out to be even better than I'd hoped making stuff would be.

After a quick search on google local I called up the Singer Sewing Center of Orange County, and Steve told me that he'd be glad to take a look, see if it was worth fixing.

It wasn't.

The shop was an adorable little mom-and-pop establishment. Apparently she quilts, he machine-embroiders, and they love what they do. It's a tiny place, and modest, but the massive discount fabric warehouse across the parking lot brings a flow of customers their way, and exceptional customer service brings them back again.

On my second trip out there, I became aware of praise choruses playing softly in the background, but I was already pretty sure that Steve was somebody who loves Jesus, just from the way he treated everybody. He was every bit as courteous to me as to the big time customers as to the homeless guy, and put the same effort into helping me find the right machine for my needs and budget as he did into helping the other ladies understand the deep and marvelous mysteries of a very fine $3,000 embroidery machine.

I ended up buying a basic Elna, not too many bells and whistles, but well-made and durable.

I decided a pair of pajamas would be a good first project. I desperately needed some warmer pjs, especially since we'd stopped heating the house at night, and it would be okay if they were a little bit clumsily done.

The elegant little machine worked like a dream, doing everything precisely as I chose. Which didn't make the pants fit exactly right... I hadn't quite gotten the hang of properly choosing where I really wanted that seam to be. But somehow even the mistakes gave me an euphoric sense of power. With this little machine, I can take some cloth and some thread and with relatively little effort, do pretty much anything I want to. All I have to do is learn how to want the right things.

This sense of empowerment has been leaking through to other areas of my life, and this beautifully sensible little device has been teaching me all sorts of widely-applicable life lessons.

But it wasn't until this morning that I realized how intertwined it all was with Proverbs.

I was reading to the wuggies, a silly Disney book in which Mickey, Goofy, and Donald play out the age-old theme of the wasted wishes. Be careful what you wish for, because it just might be exactly what you get.

It's the same theme as I've been noticing in Proverbs lately. Over and over the wise teacher exhorts us to love wisdom. It is wise to love wisdom! It is wise to love wisdom!

I always found that a tad confusing and redundant. I mean, of course it's true... just not terribly helpful. I would come wanting to hear something important about wisdom, and would feel a bit cheated by the repeated announcements that wisdom is wise.

This time around, it made sense, though, and the words were deeply comforting. Wisdom is calling out in streets, it's there for the taking. Just wanting to become wise is the first step, and if you do want to become wise, then you will. Knock and the door shall be opened unto you. Seek and you shall find.

You just have to learn to want the right things, that's all.

1.30.2007

WFMW: grocery shopping with toddlers

My husband is amazing. He can single-handedly run a full grocery trip, managing three kids in as many carts. Okay, so he needs both hands, but the point is, he can do it. I can't. One gigantic stroller is about all my puny little muscles can handle, and I just don't have the stamina to keep the kids contained long enough for a full week's shopping.

The one thing the wunder-hubband cannot do is read a shopping list. Or maybe it's that I can't write one. We each have our own opinion on the matter, and frankly, the discussions just aren't that productive. But having him watch the wuggies while I do the shopping isn't terribly productive, either. Weekends are so much better spent together as a family, or letting one of us spend a few precious hours doing something other than wuggy-wrangling and housework.

Anyway, I've finally hit on a solution. Each week, I scour the various grocery mailers, and plan my menu around the week's loss leaders for each store. Then I do my shopping in bits an pieces, going to a different store each day. So maybe on Monday I'll go to Ralphs to buy meat, and on Tuesday I'll go to Farmer Boys for produce and eggs, and on Wednesday I'll go to Stater Brother's for general staples. Or whatever. I don't ever have to buy anything for more than the lowest advertised price, and better still, I don't ever have to buy more than will fit in my stroller. I never have to stay beyond the point where the wuggies get squirrely, and I have a great motivation to get out of the house more often. Which is important for everyone's sanity, but it's hard to do!

An unexpected benefit of this system has been less food waste. Food doesn't spend as long sitting in the fridge, and so I'm less likely to make silly mistakes like planning on the chicken breasts for supper 3 days after they expire. I can also adjust things as I go, according to how far the food stretches. Which can vary a lot, when you're feeding three toddlers, who eat like horses one day, robins the next.

Works for me!

1.27.2007

Walk softly and... oh, nevermind, just walk softly.

We are feeling highly motivated to teach Isaiah to differentiate between the sounds "st" and "d."

!!!

1.26.2007

Flying

"Do you guys know what today is? Today is the day we pick up Aunt Sarah from the airport!"

"See airplanes?"

"And pilots. Airplane pilots."

"That's right. We'll get to see some airplanes."

"Aunt Sarah a pilot."

"No, Aunt Sarah's not a pilot, she's a passenger. She's just riding on the airplane."

"Aunt Sarah pilot."

"Before we go to the airport, though we're going to stop at the 99c store."

"Buy airplanes!"

"Well, actually we're going to buy balloons, since it's Aunt Sarah's birthday."

"Buy helicopters!"

"Dadders buy airplane!"

"No, Dadders ride on helicopter!"

"Ride on helicopter! Ride on helicopter!"

"Wugger ride on helicopter!"

"Meepo ride on helicopter!"

"Dadder buy helicopter!"

"Ride helicopter!"

1.25.2007

Accidents will happen...

...but so will on-purpose-es, and that's what has me flumoxed. Everybody seems to be talking about potty training today, so I might as well join in and blog about my own woes.

We've had the potty chair out for quite some time, but we've been very low-key about it so far. But now, Nathan seems definitely ready to start training in earnest. Isaiah isn't really interested, which is probably a good thing... we'll take this one wuggy at a time.

We're planning on switching straight over from diapers to regular underwear on Saturday. We'll expect lots of accidents, and do a lot of laundry. We'll be very patient and loving, but Nathan will have lots of intrinsic motivation to stay clean and dry.

I can do this.

Anyway, over the past few days, I've been getting a head start by putting Nathan in big boy underwear for just a couple of hours. After he uses the bathroom, washes his hands, and gets a treat (Hurray for Nathan! A chocolate chip for everybody!) I offer him a big glass of water. I set the kitchen timer, and then we do the whole thing all over again in 20 minutes. It's been working well so far. We've only had one accident.

One accident, and one on-purpose.

Just a few moments before the timer went off, Nathan pulled down his pants, took aim, and carefully peed all over a favorite throw pillow.

I don't think I let my anger show. I just remarked how sad it was, and I guess he's just not quite ready for this, and put him in a diaper.

ButI'm pretty, um, shall we say... er...

No, we shan't say. I'll keep the blog clean--even if the blue pillow isn't.

1.24.2007

Works for Me Wednesday: Celebrations

To bribe or not to bribe, that is the question.

External rewards can be powerful motivators, but they can also turn into fuel for brattyness, when the wuggies start demading them as rights, necessary conditions for good behavior.

So we've stopped rewarding good behavior. Instead, we celebrate. When one of the kids does the right thing even though he (or she!) really doesn't want to, everybody gets a special treat. When Isaiah quietly gets into his carseat even though he REALLY doesn't want to leave the park, we have a litty party when we get home. We clap and cheer and dance and talk about how happy we are for Isaiah's moral victory, and everybody gets stickers, or maybe even a new car. (Won't be so feasible at 16, but at age 3, we can do this!)

Somehow this shifts the focus to a more free and grace-filled understanding of righteousness. We don't obey so that we can get treats, we obey because it is good, and the treats are a really useful reminder of that.

As for the treats themselves, we really love Speed Wheels. They're pretty much like Matchbox or Hot Wheels, only half as expensive, and of much higher quality. They actually have contracts with the various auto manufacturers, and the detail is really impressive. Especially for 50 cents. =)

Works for me!

1.22.2007

Clean Humor

We were having sloppy joes for dinner, which I thought was a very kid-friendly meal indeed. Simple and yummy, if a bit of mess... slap big bibs on all the wuggies, and everyone's happy, right?

Well, everyone except Isaiah, who hates to try anything new.

He liked it in the end, once he'd actually taken that first bite. But for the first half of the meal, he chanted his protest continuously.

"No sloppy jokes! No sloppy jokes! No sloppy jokes!"

1.21.2007

Improvement

The other day, as we were tidying up the living room, Andy remarked that we seem to be running a home for battered children's books.

It's true. Babar is in bad shape, and Thomas looks like a train wreck survivor.

We try. But the wuggies have a very intense relationship with books. Usually things are amicable, but whenever there's a tussle 'twixt tome and tyke, the wuggy wins.

All this is very frustrating, and deeply rankles our bibliophilic souls.

Today, as I was reading Isaiah his pre-nap book of choice, I was horrified to realize that the last two pages, two very crucial pages, had been ruthlessly torn out.

But on second thought, it really does seem to be an improvement.

Before I explain, I should probably warn you that there will be spoilers ahead. So if you would like to keep the ending a surprise, stop reading here. However, I do think that fretting too much about "spoilers" seems rather pointless in this particular genre. No matter how many children's books you may have, you will always end up reading one of them over and over and over, 20 times a day. All you can do is hope that it's something like this, and not something like this. All things considered, I'd say we got pretty lucky.

Anyway, in this wonderful gem of a book, George is a dog, and his mother wants to hear him bark. But instead of saying "arf," as all good dogs must, George meows. On the second try, he quacks, and then he oinks. When finally he actually starts mooing, his very distraught mommy takes him straight into the vet. Who, of course, dons his rubber gloves, reaches down George's throat, and pulls out an assortment of very dazed looking animals. Finally, once the cow is out of him, George barks beautifully, and there was much rejoicing.

I've often thought that it would be a delightful little book if it just ended right there. Now that our copy actually does, I can't say that I'm too terribly disappointed. Do we really need to know that on the way home, walking a long the crowded street, George said "hello"? I think not.

But don't tell the wuggies I said so.

Wouldn't want to give them the idea that sort of thing's condoned around here.

1.20.2007

If there IS anything cuter...

...then it's definitely a strapping young man, aged 3, helping his father change the spark plugs, industriously applying the wrench to various portions of the engine.

Yup.

Vroom!

There may very well be cuter things than a tiny little girl-child curled up in her daddy's lap, making motorcycle noises.

There may be cuter things, but I'm not sure what they are.

1.19.2007

Nothing new under the sun

Yesterday, while I was fixing dinner, I turned on the oldies station.

I don't usually listen to the oldies station. In the car, I'll turn on classical KMZT, or one of the many country stations, or maybe NPR. At home, I hardly ever listen to the radio at all. Somehow, songs that I'm not expecting, that I haven't chosen to hear, have no place in my home. When I'm out and about, I want to be exposed to new and unpredictable experiences. But in my own home, I don't want the entire atmosphere of our household to be at the whim of some unknown DJ. So I hardly ever listen to CDs in the car, and almost never listen to the radio at home.

Lately we've been listening to this in the evenings, over and over and over. I wasn't sick of it, by any stretch of the imagination, but I suppose I wanted to safeguard against that potential tragedy. Besides, our copy is a cassette, and I'd hate to wear it out all at once. Seriously, that album is a treasure, instantly creating the sort of atmosphere in which children are easy to love and well worth understanding. Not only do the wuggies love it, but it's the sort of music that makes me a better parent.

But last night, I thought we should listen to something different for a change, so I put on the oldies station.

Nathan became very excited.

"It's brand new music!!"

1.16.2007

Silence

There he is, sprawled across the couch, leaning into the corner, feet propped up across the cushions. So very old, and so very new... timeless. Utter tranquility blends with an intense vitality, and I have to look twice to see if he's awake or asleep. He is beautiful, so beautiful, and he is my son. And he is asleep. Asleep! I could kiss him.

I do kiss him, careful lest I wake him.

Down at my feet the little girl-child has nestled into the carpet. Her eyelids gently snap open, then slowly drift back down.

Do I move her?

I watched, motionless, waiting. The blinks became slower and slower, drowsier and drowsier. When they finally stopped, I tucked a blanket around her, and tiptoed away.

The dishwasher clatters a bit, and I glance around nervously. One arm begins to stir... then settles back down where it was before. The lovely counterpoint of their peaceful breathing continues as though nothing had happened, and finally I exhale.

I fill my favorite mug with water, and tiptoe across the kitchen, carefully going around the tricycle. I pause for a moment, wondering if I dare risk the beep of the microwave.

I decide that if I can't have a cup of tea to myself, this precious solitude isn't worth preserving. I take a deep breath, and punch the buttons.

While my tea water heats, I go down the hall to draw myself a bath. I hear the clatter of wooden train tracks. Nathan is in his bedroom, babbling away to himself. He, too, needs the solitude.

The microwave beeps without incident. I'm nearly giddy with the joy of it.

I breathe a prayer of gratitude as I slip my foot into the warm water.

This is bliss.

The time has come

Our wuggy-boys love books. I remember feeling so guilty when they were smaller, because I didn't really read to them much at all. The experts all say that the only way to instill a love of books in your children is to start reading to them pretty much at birth.

And I did start reading to them at birth... Jane Austen and C. S. Lewis, and sundry texts on the philosophy and psychology and pop-neurology of music. The boys just ate it up. The sound of my voice, continuous and rhythmic in the ever changing variety of inflection... somehow, even without any vocabulary or context or anything, somehow it told a story that nourished their little souls.

That all changed, however, right about the time that I would have thought they could start really getting into picture books. Books were great for teething on, and tearing, and even for the exploration of hinge action. But reading? Oh, Mom, please give us a break.

So, guiltily and with much anxiety, I did pretty much give them a break. I did make an effort to read to them occasionally, but it was pretty much a miserable experience all around... it was very occasional indeed.

I don't remember exactly when the boys started liking books again, but I'm pretty sure that Curious George had something to do with it. At any rate, being read to is one of the great joys in their lives, and if nobody happens to be reading to them, they will gladly sit for hours quietly flipping through picture books. Or high school trigonometry texts, for that matter. (Seriously. Once, Andy watched Isaiah turn through every single page of a very large textbook, carefully examining every graph and diagram and illustration.) It's rather strange, because I thought that toddlers were supposed to have short attention spans. I think it must be hereditary--I can't think of anyone with a longer attention span than their father.

Anyway, over the past few days, I've been noticing that the boys have started actually reading their books. Not reading in the proper sense of forming words and sentences out of the letters on the page, but really describing and interpreting the pictures. Reading them. They aren't just enjoying the sensory stimulation of all the shapes and colors, aren't just enjoying the thrill of recognizing a ball and a monkey and a road and a lake and a bicycle. They're carefully observing that the monkey is wearing a hat and carrying a ball while he rides his bicycle on the road around the lake. And all that really seems to be the same sort of thing as reading. It's all symbol interpretation.

And then, yesterday, as we were getting ready to go to the market, I left a note for Andy. Isaiah was fascinated, and gleefully pointed to the beginning of the word "potatoes."

"P!"

I wasn't sure if he actually recognized the letter, or if he just knew that I was writing a bunch of letters, and so called out the name of a letter at random. But one way or another, I guess it's time to start working on the alphabet.

Which, to be perfectly honest, scares the daylights out of me.

They're supposed to still be my babies.

1.12.2007

Three Years Ago...

And one hour and 25 minutes. And 22 minutes, respectively.

A blur of panic and fear and relief and regret. A surge of unaccustomed energy, partly from the adrenaline rush, partly from the strange hormonal cocktail of advanced labor... but mostly because they finally stopped the mag drip.

Freedom was on the horizon, and already, it felt so good.

I was racked with guilt over it. Did I somehow make it happen? I certainly hadn't tried to, but there was a part of me that wanted to, wanted to so badly. I was at the end of my rope. I'd felt like I could not go on a single day more... and there it was. I didn't. I certainly hadn't tried to make it happen, but in a sense I surely must have. Because it happened, and it was me. Could I have stopped it? I didn't know. But I did know that there was a level on which I'd stopped trying. I just didn't have anything left with which to try to prolong my ordeal.

It was a party in the OR. It happened over the morning shift change, so everybody was there. And I was glad they were there, too. These people had fought for these babies right alongside me. They belonged in that room. The whole medical team was so excited, so happy, so congratulatory, as I wondered if I'd just killed my babies, or maimed them for life. "You did it! You made it!"

32 1/2 weeks. I hadn't made it to 36, when they could have come home with me, or even 34, when they would have been growers-and-feeders. The lady with the triplets down the hall had made it to 34. I hadn't met her, but our nurses talked to us about each other, and about their dreams for each of the five fragile little babies, the galloping heartbeats that would grow up to be teachers and doctors and firemen. The triplet lady had made it to 34 weeks... why couldn't I? But I'd made it past 29 weeks, which meant they had a fighting chance of survival. What's more, I'd made it to 32 weeks. They were probably going to be normal. Maybe. If they could pull through the long battle ahead.

I didn't know whether to celebrate or mourn.

But I do know now.

Today is not just the anniversary of their birth, today is their birthday. With cake and ice cream, but not for breakfast, and no, you may not open your presents until this afternoon!

Thanks be to God!

1.11.2007

Grammar

I've always had a love/hate relationship with grammar. It all came very naturally to me, made perfect sense. What didn't make any sense to me was why it mattered.

Or maybe it just seemed like a fairly safe place to get a little rebellion out of my system.

Whatever the case, for a long time, it was a great goal of mine to break as many rules as possible, and still sound good. Or, even better, to keep every rule to a T, and sound really, really, awkward. Just for demonstration purposes, of course.

Music theory transformed my view of rules.

There it was, right in front of me. Beauty, defined and explained, tucked inside--of all things!--a pile of seemingly arbitrary rules and conventions. They weren't comprehensive, of course. You can do lots of perfect exercises and pretty much avoid any semblance of beauty altogether. And lots and lots of truly beautiful music either breaks lots of the "rules," or is beyond the scope of them altogether. Nevertheless, each of these rules is something we know about beauty. Something solid to hang onto, evidence that beauty is real and it is knowable. Never exhaustible, but knowable.

A single note carrying over into the next chord, serving an entirely different function? That's beautiful. Really beautiful. It's complex in a way that ties everything together, simple in a way that creates interest and highlights complexity. It's beautiful, and knowing that it is beautiful provides a real and powerful insight into what beauty is.

Parallel fifths? Well, that is simplicity itself, and can actually be really beautiful if it sets the tone for the piece. But in the middle of something more complex, it can just sort of disolve the train of thought, leaving all sorts of threads hanging.

As for augmented seconds, it sounds just like a minor third, but it's actually a second, and by adding an accidental, it's actually a more harmonious interval, except that it's not... well, that's just complicated, plain and simple. And communication disasters aren't beautiful.

Now where was I? Oh, yes, grammar.

I probably should have known that grammar, too, is not a set of arbitrary restrictions, but rather the codification of something real and organic and lovely and meaningful. I'm just not sure that I gave it a whole lot of thought until now.

It's fun to watch their vocabulary grow. ("Honey, did you hear that? She said fish!") And it's so much fun to sort through the primordial ooze of homonyms from which it all develops. ("So when she calls the lion 'da-da,' does that mean she thinks it looks like you, or that she things it looks like a doggy?")

But as fun as all that is, it's nothing compared to the thrill of watching them develop grammar. Every day the boys come up with more complex sentence structures, and every day those sentences become a little more natural, a little more fluid, as they master fine distinctions.

And there it is, tangible evidence that they're learning how to think. That their thoughts are becoming more precise, and that they're developing the tools with which to communicate them clearly. What a magnificent edifice is language! I take it for granted, it is so utterly essential to all my experience, communal or solitary. It doesn't merely allow me to share my thoughts, and understand the thoughts of others, it is what allows me to organize my own thoughts within my head.

And there it is, all fresh and new. So exciting.

The other day Nathan needed a diaper change. Badly.

"Meeps, are you stinky?"

And I was so very, very proud of his answer.

"I'm not stinky!"

A week ago, he might have said "No stink! No stink!" Or maybe even "Meepo no stinky." But now? "I'm not stinky!"

Correct use of the first person singular! With a contraction, no less! And a negative modifier!

It was a baldfaced lie, of course... but we can overlook that for grammatical excellence, can't we?

1.09.2007

Switching over to the new blogger

I've been hesitating for a long time, scared something will go wrong.

But blogger is making things very difficult for stick-in-the-muds like me, so as soon as they let me, I'm making the switch.

So if my posts stop showing up on your feed-readers, just resubscribe.

1.06.2007

10 times the fun

One of our favorite games around here is a sort of unstructured combination of "Simon Says" and "Follow the Leader." Dadders or I will line the wuggies up, and say... oh... "Touch your nose!"

And everybody fishes around trying to find their respective noses, giggling gleefully. Then, as they start really getting into the game, they'll start taking the lead, and coming up with things for everybody to do. Which will probably involve hopping about and making strange noises. Leadership just passes fluidly from one person to the next, and we all have an uproarously grand time.

As we were enjoying one such game of "Somebody Says," I called out "Touch your toes!" This was a big hit indeed, since none of us were quite flexible to do so without a bit of contortion.

Once we'd all managed to get ourselves into a good toe-touching position, Nathan shifted his fingers a mere centimeter over, and called out "Touch the other-one toes!"

1.03.2007

Catching up.

Okay, so it's been a while.

See, I've had a Christmas post brewing in my head for quite some time now, but I've been too busy with, well, Christmas. And the longer I waited, the longer the post grew... and the likelihood of it ever making it here shrunk substantially.

And by now, all I really want to post about is the absurd placement of drug store copy machines. Copy machines and automatic door sensors really should not go together. Especially if the automatic door in question has a very, very powerful fan. Frustrates customers to no end. Perhaps that is the whole point, given that the copy machine and door are both located right next to the ice cream counter... but the whole thing was a no-win situation, because as badly as I wanted some ice cream to make up for the copy experience, there was nobody behind the counter.

Anyway, today I decided that I was just going to have to bite the bullet, admit to myself that I never was going to write that Christmas post, and write something else.

Which really is quite a bummer, since it would have been such jolly fun to tell you all about Christmas shopping with toddlers, and about how very elegant our toddler-proof tree looked, adorned so simply with a single strand of pearly white lights and tiny silver balls tied on with red ribbon bows, and about how Nathan thought this was grand indeed, and attempted to do his part by tying his shoes onto branches... And I did so want to entitle a post "Yes, Virginia, there is a Martha Stewart, but thank God Christmas isn't about her."

Ah well, maybe next year I'll be able to have my Christmas and blog it too. In the meantime, I hope your Christmas was merry and bright. Ours certainly was.

And blessings throughout the year to come, to you and yours!

12.21.2006

Living in a fantasy

Today, I am a dragon.

There are lots of reasons why I might be a bit dragonish just now. Before Andy stumbled off to work at the unearthly hour of 4 am., he poked his head into the boys' room to kiss his sleeping sons. And found his firstborn sleeping peacefully in a puddle of vomit.

Delightful way to start off the day, it was not.

Factor in the unauthorized color-fest, and the diarrhea, and I can't believe I was at Walmart last night and didn't even pick up wipes... well, you can see why I might be a dragon today.

But that's not why I am a dragon today.

Somehow, in spite of it all, today has been one of those bright glowing days that filled my virginal dreams of motherhood. Those dreams that never really took account of the messes and the frustrations and the lost sleep--I vaguely knew that they were a part of motherhood, but in the dreams, they never mattered, covered as they were in a hazy mist of tenderness.

And that is how today has been.

Today, I am a dragon, because that is the game of choice. I am a great fire-breathing dragon, and my sons are valiant knights with shining swords. And when, grins ablazing, they are through slaying me, they are my own precious dragon babies, fresh hatched from great dragon eggs, and I cover them with kisses.

And now, if you'll excuse me, I'll just go shred some potatoes with my enormous claws, and cook them with my firey breath.

12.14.2006

12.13.2006

Tembo and I were reading together this morning. Sometimes it's hard to carve out time to read together, just her and me... her bubbas always want in on the action. So it wasn't as quiet and tranquil as we might have liked, but we shared a few special moments, and she babbled happily about the pictures in her bok as I warded off Nathan's pounces, and as Isaiah crowded close, looking over our shoulders and repeatedly asking when it would be his turn.

Tembo was earnestly attempting to wrap her little mind around the concept of a dandelion, and even more earnestly trying to wrap her little tongue around the word.

"Dan-de-li-on."

"Dach-la-flug."

"Dan-de-li-on."

"Daff-la-shoog."

Like a little school-boy bouncing up and down with his hand raised as high as it could possibly reach, Nathan had the answer, and there came a point where he just couldn't hold it in any longer.

"Daniel-and-the-lions!"

Wherein I conclude that three in diapers might not be such a bad thing, after all

Don't get me wrong, I'm still very much looking forward to the completion of potty training. We're working on it... slowly... We got a little derailed by wisdom teeth and holidays, but we're still working on it, and I have high hopes for getting the boys out of diapers once and for all---sometime after Christmas, and my last remaining wisdom tooth, and their birthday.

In the mean time, though, I have a lot of diapers to change, and I've found a way to make it a moderately pleasant experience for everyone.

See, all of my wuggies have always liked sticking their hands inside their dirty diapers as I change them. (Or, for that matter, when I dress them in elastic-waisted pants without onesies, but that's another story for another day...) Anyway, when they were smaller, it wasn't such a big deal. I can easily overpower a 7 lb. infant. I can also overpower a big, strapping toddler, but with a little less ease, and a LOT more mess. And avoiding a mess was the whole point.

Anyway, now diaper changes in Wuggyville are a family affair. While I change each child's diaper, the other two wuggies stand on either side of the changee, and hold his or her hands. Everyone smiles tenderly at one another, it's all very sweet and touching... and by the time the changee realizes what's going on and reaches down to wreak havoc, whoops, the dirty diaper's all gone, and we're done.

Works like a dream.

=)

12.07.2006

12.04.2006

Making Do

Cleaning is the wuggies' obsession of the month. More exciting even than trains and trash trucks, although not quite as exciting as talking about Jesus and the cross and his owies and how now he's alive again. If offered the choice between going to the zoo to visit the monkeys or cleaning the house, I quite honestly don't know which itinerary they would choose for the day.

This passion of theirs is a wonderful thing, and greatly to be encouraged. So very developmentally appropriate, and the foundation for a lifetime of good habits, and a sign of little hearts desirous of general helpfulness and all things amicable.

And they actually would be very helpful, and come very close to offsetting their next greatest passion--making messes--but for two things. A) we keep the cleaning supplies locked up out of reach, and B) our wuggies are very resourceful indeed.

Soooooo.....

Does anyone know how in the world to get honey off of windows?

12.01.2006

Unrecognizables

Planning out the weeks menu and shopping list, I surveyed the food remaining in my refrigerator, and contemplated I could incorporate it into upcoming meals before it spoiled. I wondered to myself what on earth had possessed me to buy such an enormous ginger root. I always do that... I get a little carried away with things like that.

There was no chance of using it up, but a ginger-honey glazed chicken would be a start.

I stirred the honey and white wine together, resigned myself to the fact that they would never really mix, and added a little salt. The recipe didn't call for salt, but surely a little salt is in order. This is chicken, after all.

Then I went to grate the ginger.

It wasn't ginger.

It was a sweet potato.

Which would have been a very nice addition to the Thanksgiving yams, had I remembered, but which won't really add much flavor to my chicken.

But you know what? I'm kind of glad, actually. I was only using the ginger out of guilt tonight.

11.30.2006

Conversation

"Edaphunt. Edaphunt."

"Oh, are you a baby elephant?"

"No, I'm huge."

Disappointment

For the first time in my life, I slipped on a banana peel.

It wasn't nearly as funny as I might have hoped.

11.28.2006

Numbersense

Nathan is counting!

"One... two... six... seven... eight... four... eleven..."

=)

Dilemma

I'm really excited about Advent and Christmas this year. The wuggies are old enough now for it to be meaningful, and I'm on the lookout for ways to involve them in the season.

I love the idea of an advent calendar, and have lots of great childhood memories of opening the little door and reading the days scripture... but when it comes down to actually looking for a calendar for us to use, it's very difficult indeed to find one that is simultaneously toddler-appropriate and within budget.

So I was most pleased to read about this idea. A little "tree" with an ornament symbolic of each day's scripture reading? Brilliant.

But why would it have to be a separate tree? Why not have that BE our main Christmas tree? Instead of having a one-day tree-decorating frenzy, and two weeks of keeping toddlers away from it... why not help the wuggies to decorate it themselves over the course of advent, just a little bit each day, while we talk about waiting for Baby Jesus?

Ah, the pesky logistics of it all... if we have a real tree, we certainly can't have it up all through Advent and the Twelve Days of Christmas. And if we have a fake tree... well, what's the point of a fake tree, anyway?

So I was thinking we'd get a living Christmas tree, which wouldn't dry out and become a fire hazard.

But then I read that it would, however, become ill unto death if left inside for longer than 10 days.

It would be such a shame to buy a living tree, only to kill it over the course of the holiday... but really no different than chopping it down all at once at the beginning, I guess.

What to do, what to do.

There's a reason I blog, though. When I write, things start to make sense. Our tree will start out on the porch. Or maybe it will even start out at the back of the yard and slowly make its way toward the house as Christmas approaches.

Now I just need to be sure to make my ornaments weather-proof.

11.27.2006

Tantrums

"Cheese! Cheese! Cheese! Cheeeeeeeese!!"

"You need to ask nicely. Cheese please?"

"No! No cheese please! Chee-eeeese!"

Page-turner

As my mother and I worked on Thanksgiving dinner, Tembo sat snuggled up with her grandpa, reading her little bible book. It was a cooperative effort--Grandpa did the reading, and Tembo turned the pages. Often, because of course the page turning is the very best part of all.

So it was that out of the corner of my ear, I heard a most fascinating tale.

"Noah built a boat for his family and all kinds of animals. The princess found the boat on the river. Inside was a little baby."

An interesting plot idea there... I'm sure of it...

11.22.2006

A roomate by any other name...

"Hi... Sarah?"

"Yes."

"Do you have class today?"

"No."

"Are you going to be bored out of your mind?"

"Quite possibly."

"Do you want us to come pick you up?"

"That depends... Who are you?"

"Oh, sorry. This is Elena."

"Who?"

"Your sister."

"Umm... I think you want to talk to Sarah Palmer."

11.20.2006

Ouch.

This afternoon I went in to have three wisdom teeth removed.

It took approximately 3 times as long as anticipated, and even then, we're only halfway through.

Prayer would be appreciated, both that the half-tooth left behind would stay out of trouble, and that there would be no permanent nerve damage from the attempted extraction.

Funny thing is, what hurts the most right now is the spot where they gave me all the shots. They pumped me so full of novacain, my ear was numb.

But thank God, all the novacain in the world isn't enough to keep you from screaming when they wiggle a tooth whose roots have fused together right by nerve. And thank God for digital x-rays, so the doctor was able to figure out what was going on, before it was too late.

Ay-ay-ay. What an afternoon.

11.19.2006

Economics Lesson

From the back room I overheard Nathan and Andy chattering. Judging from the jingling, apparently Andy was emptying out his pockets.

"Money."

"That's right, Nathan. It's money. What sorts of things can we buy with money?"

"Keys."

I chuckled to myself, wondering if Nathan was putting forth keys as one of those things that money can buy, or if he was merely changing the subject and observing that Andy had taken keys out of his pocket as well. I suspected that it was both, and that it was the proximity of keys that put them forth in his mind as the proper answer to the question and hand. And I wondered just how much of all our thinking is formed that way.

Andy and I had an extended dialogue about budgeting, and what I would and would not buy on my trip to Target, and then he went to go clean his car.

At least that's what I thought he was doing.

Nathan gazed earnestly up into my eyes and explained, "Dadder's going to Target. Buy keys for the car."

11.18.2006

Nener's Nutty Pan-Cookin's

I've finally figured out exactly how I like my pancakes. Fluffy, but not thick, a nice combination of hearty and light. Next time around, I think I'll try adding a chopped apple.

2 eggs, beaten until fluffy
2 c. milk
1.4 c. melted butter
1 Tpsp. vanilla

1 c. all purpose flour
1 c. whole wheat flour
2 Tbsp. baking powder
2 Tbsp. sugar
2 tsp. cinnamon
1/2 tsp. salt
1/3 c. chopped walnuts

combine wet ingredients and dry ingredients separately, fold 'em together gently, cook 'em on a hot griddle, and serve 'em with maple syrup. Preferably in a sunbeam. Pancakes are ever so much yummier when you can see the steam rising.

11.16.2006

Commentary

Other blogs get string upon string of comments.

Mine doesn't, and I must say, that's rather disappointing.

When I do get comments, though...

...sometimes they're better than the post itself.

11.15.2006

Malphonistically Speaking

Euphomisms make sense to me. When we talk about difficult and profound things in benign terms, they seem less intimidating.

And we're less likely to frighten any small children who may be in the room.

But why, why, why do we then turn around and talk about benign, commonplace events in the somberest of terms?

I tried to call Andy at work this evening, but his cell phone battery has been on the fritz, and it didn't even ring, just transfered me straight to his voice mail.

"Uh-oh," I said sadly, "We can't talk to Dadders after all. His phone's dead."

And now my sons are utterly convinced that they are fatherless.

The trouble with Girls

When the boys leave their cars, trucks, and minivans laying in a mangled heap on the floor, never does my heart stop in momentary fear that it is our real car upside-down underneath a semi.

The same cannot be said of Tembo's "babies."

As soon as my heart stops racing, I'm going to go dig a slightly less life-like doll out of the toy box.

11.12.2006

Meat Loaf

Almost as much veggies as meat, it tends to crumble when you try to slice it. But the flavor is well worth it. Besides I've never made a meatloaf that didn't crumble. =)

1 1/2 lbs. ground beef
2 eggs
2 slices of bread, torn into little bits
1 leek, chopped
1 tomato, diced
1/2 green bell pepper, chopped
Kernels from one ear of corn
A handful of fresh basil leaves, torn into small pieces
2 Tbsp. molasses
2 Tbsp. catsup.

Gently knead all ingredients together in a large bowl, press into loaf pan. Bake at 350 until done, about 1 1/2 hrs.

Word to the wise: If your ground beef has a high fat content, you'll need need to drain off the grease. And if the meatloaf pretty much fills up your pan, you're less likely to burn yourself if you drain it several times over the course of it's stay in the oven.

And please, please don't substitute frozen or canned corn. The very best part about this dish is the delightfully flavorful crunch of the corn kernels.

11.10.2006

Mama's Helper-girl

This morning while I showered, Tembo was so helpful. She got me a washcloth... several, actually. I guess she wanted to make up for the fact that mamas can't shower quite as often as they might wish.

She also got me some deodorant.

Old Spice.

And above all, she got me a towel.

And another towel.

And another.

And another.

She kept right on bringing me towels, until the bottom of the shower was about a foot high in soggy towels, and oh, whe was pleased with herself.

And now as I write, hair wrapped in the least soggy of the pile, Tembo nuzzles her nose against my shoulder.

There's a towel on her head, too.

Just like the Mama.

11.08.2006

Back to the Pharmacist

Right down the street from us is a 24-hr. SavOn drugs. Or CVS Pharmacy. Or whatever it is. It's all rather disorienting. Apparently I should shop at Albertsons (which I don't) because inside every Albertsons is a SavOn Drugs, and SavOn Drugs is very, very wonderful. And why is SavOn Drugs so wonderful? Because inside every SavOn is a CVS Pharmacy. I'm just waiting for them to announce that they're putting an Albertsons inside every CVS Pharmacy, and then it'll all make sense.

But I really don't care what they call it, I just wish they would fill my prescriptions instead of losing them. Apparently "Johnston" is a very confusing last name. It's almost very normal, and that's the problem. Quite typical and mundane... except for that "T." They don't quite know what to do with the "T," but the name is so very normal-sounding, they don't realize just how confused they are. So they look in their computer, find five different Andrew Johnsons in their system, and not a one of them has a prescription waiting.

It's worse with the night staff, and it's worse with Tembo.

"Yes. September. Like the month."
"No, not her date of birth, it's her name."
"Yes, really."
"No, August 28."
"She came a few days early."

It all gets resolved in the end, but sometimes we have to resort to calling back after a shift change.

And every time this happens I swear to myself that I am never doing business there again. And every time we need a prescription, that's where exactly where I go, because it's right down the street, and open 24 hrs., and besides, this time can't possibly be as bad as last time. And every time, it is.

This last was worst of all. No record on their system whatsoever of Tembo's prescription. I spoke with members of 3 different shifts, and nobody could figure it out. But I had two messages on my answering machine verifying that the doctor had, indeed, called the prescription in.

So this morning I called the doctor again to ask her to send the prescription off to a different pharmacy. It turned out, however, that she already had sent it to a different pharmacy. The whole thing was my fault this time. I'd given the doctor the number of a SavOn/CVS/Whatever half an hour away. I had no reason to doubt the competence of this particular pharmacy (aside from the identity confusion, of course)... but it was half an hour away.

So it was that I found myself calling my neighborhood Multiple Personality Pharmacy once again, and asking them to transfer the prescription over from the other location.

I knew it was a mistake, even as I dialed. I was sure of it as the automated phone system informed me that "0" was not a valid option, and I would simply have to listen to a full listing of all possible methods of learning about flu clinic locations and hours in Southern California before they would let me talk to a human being.

I was ready to repent in sack-cloth and ashes by the time the girl on the end of the line was done with her lengthy apology and explanation for leaving me on the line for so long listening to the pandemonium behind the counter. Something about an exploding computer, I think. Anyway, I saw the error of my ways, and was fully prepared to give up and drive all the way to Beach Blvd.... but I'd been through so much, and was so close... I couldn't just give up and let that go to waste.

Oh, I should have. I should have.

When we got to the whole name conversation...

She had a hard time figuring out where to put the "W."

11.02.2006

If you shop at Costco...

NOW is the time to buy your holiday baking supplies. I just bought a 16 oz. bottle of real vanilla extract for $7, and 7 oz. of saigon cinnamon (the good stuff) for $3.50.

I'm enjoying a scrumptious cinnamon roll right now. I had no idea just how big a difference the quality of cinnamon can make. It makes a big difference. And saigon cinnamon is good cinnamon, warm and bright and intense.

Mmmm-mmm.

11.01.2006

Slowly, imperceptibly, the sun has set. Gradually, incrementally, it dawns on me that all is dark. A lone lamp shines out bleakly, a forgotten reminder of early morning's cheerful dark.

My head throbs dully, nothing a cup of coffee and an ibuprofen won't fix.

I wish the soul-ache were so simple.

"Milk. Milk in a cup!" But you have a cup of milk right there. "Milk in a cup with chocolate?"

Unpleasant odors waft up to my nose. Which one needs changing this time?

It never ends, this constant cycle of needs. Milk and stories and honey toast and pictures of helicopters. Apple slices, but don't spit them out, oops, bye-bye apple. Crayons, but only on the paper, oops, bye-bye crayons. And how is it that mopping the floor twice a day just isn't enough?

I know that there was a time when it all seemed to matter, was beautiful and joyous. And I know that time was just a few short hours ago.

I remember that there was a time, but try as I might, I can't remember what it felt like.

The emptiness deepens and swells, until I cannot bear the pressure.

Suddenly I recognize the hunger. My fingers tremble as I pull my flute case down off the shelf. The tarnished silver tubes slip together effortlessly, and I play. The sound is horrendous, but I don't care. To pause, and adjust, and find a tone that I can admire seems a shameful vanity. Later, later. For now, my need is too pressing, and I simply play.

Rippling through the notes, weaving in and around scales and arpeggios, the formless void of my experience takes shape.

"No song! No song!"

I really do sound dreadful.

My son, I'm afraid you're just going to have to put up with it. Just a glimmer, but I start to remember. Like a theorem you couldn't quite prove yourself or even recite, but the logic is so compelling, you know that if you read it long enough it will become part of you... like the truth you reason yourself into seeing, in that strange in-between moment when you still see the illusion right there mixed up with the truth...

The music matters, so obviously matters. And the music is life, only smaller, flatter. So if the music matters, then necessarily, life has to matter, and more. I only half see it, but I know it must be so, there is no other way. It has to matter, and more importantly, the way that the music matters has to be the same way that life matters. Just a glimmer, but I start to remember.

What was I thinking? What else could possibly happen when I go for weeks without music?

Isaiah, you are simply going to have to put up with the sound of my flute.

But first, how about a cup of juice and a cuddle and another Arthur book?

10.31.2006

Corn is shaped like a rocket, and the color of moonlight.

My firstborn son is a poet.

10.30.2006

Imitation

Tembo has learned a lot from her "bubbas." Mostly that's a good thing. They've had quite a hand in teaching her to walk, and talk, and stack blocks, and play with trucks. All this is very wonderful... but alas, their influence isn't always quite so positive.

The other day, Isaiah and I were cuddled up on the couch, reading together. I don't recall what we were reading, but it was great fun. And Tembo wanted that book. There's no lack of fun picture books around here, but Tembo wanted that one. It would only be a few moments before Isaiah and I were ready to move on to a different book, but she wanted it right then.

Whining didn't get our little September-child what she wanted, so she tried a different strategy. Slowly and deliberately, she took her brother's foot into her mouth, and chomped down.

Et tu, Tembo?

Even as September has been learning from her older siblings, though, Isaiah has been learning from us. He didn't try to retaliate, didn't even show any anger. He simply raised one eyebrow, announced "Uh-oh, Timmo," and waited for me to remove the naughty little girl to her playpen.

All in all, I think I'm proud.

10.29.2006

Strike Two

When the grocers went on strike a while back, it didn't really affect me that much. I simply shopped at the same non-union store as always. It was a little more crowded than usual, but the extra business put the employees in especially good moods. And the strike provided excellent fodder for small talk with strangers in the grocery store. If Californians tend to be a bit aloof, I do believe it is because the weather is so terribly uninteresting around here.

Yes, the grocery strike was not so bad... for me personally, at any rate. I was very glad on behalf of everyone involved when the whole situation was finally resolved, but it just didn't have a whole lot to do with me.

The current situation is another story altogether.

When the garbage men go on strike...

...it stinks.

10.28.2006

Two things I like, and one thing that annoys and confuses me.

Two things I like:

1. Household cleaners that come in concentrated formulas. Nice and efficient and frugal and all that.

2. Household cleaners that come in spray bottles. Very convenient.

One thing that annoys and confuses me:

Concentrated household cleaners that come in spray bottles. What in the world am I supposed to do with that?

10.26.2006

Time Out.

Last night Andy had a bunch of calls to make for work.

Parents aren't always particularly thrilled to get a call from a total stranger, informing them that their child qualifies for state-funded remedial tutoring.

Although the news really isn't nearly so insulting as they might think... under the No Child Left Behind Act, schools can't afford to waste valuable resources on students in the bottom quartile.

At any rate, Andy suspected that calling over the dinner hour might not help matters, but it was 5:30, and the calls had to be made. He thought about waiting until 7, but I vehemently nixed that idea. We did not hire a babysitter so I could sit at Starbucks and twiddle my thums while he made Title I calls. Besides, there's a reason why telemarketers always call over dinner. They're more likely to be home.

So he really was looking a bit guilty when he shut himself into the boys' room to make the calls in peace.

That's certainly how Isaiah interpreted it anyway. As he heard the door click, he grinned up at me.

"Dadder uh-oh!"

10.23.2006

The Quotable Husband

"Two ears of corn, 3 Italian squash, a chicken... and thou."

10.20.2006

Sick

My throat is raw and I hurt everywhere.

And I'd call the doctor...

except I have laryngitis.

10.19.2006

Perishables

Yesterday morning I glanced over at the bookshelf and saw a pile of things Andy had gathered up to take to work.

Whoops. So I put his grub in the fridge, and he came home for lunch.

When he opened up the refrigerator, and saw his pocket Latin dictionary on the second shelf, he just smiled and shrugged.

"Well, I guess it's a dead language. Wouldn't want it to spoil."

10.18.2006

Giver of Kisses

The other day I had a dental appointment. I'd carefully scheduled it for a Monday, because Monday's are Andy's prep day, and thus pretty flexible, and he could watch the wuggies for me.

Except that after I'd scheduled my appointment, Andy's bosses scheduled a meeting in Pasadena, so there goes that bright idea.

It all worked out fine, though, because Justy came with us, and pushed our big, beautiful Wuggy Buggy around shopping plaza. So while I got my teeth poked and prodded and x-rayed, they visited the pet store and big lots and the 99c store and the garage where they were working on bug cars. Bug cars! Nathan got a red truck. Isaiah got a blue truck. Tembo got a dolly. I got the news that I need four fillings and three wisdom tooth extractions, and that not only are they going to drill me, they're going to gouge me, too. (Over $1k for four fillings? Surely I can do better than that... anyone know a reasonable dentist in Anaheim?)

I think I got the rotten end of the deal.

Anyway, the boys like their trucks very much. It's a funny thing... I never would have gotten Nathan the red one and Isaiah the blue one, it's always the other way around in my mind. But oh, they are very happy with this particular ownership arrangement. As I was putting them down for their quiet time that afternoon, Isaiah's truck happened still to be out in the living room. So Nathan shared... for a little while. When he got his truck back, he sighed with pleasure, and announced, "Share the Bubba. But mine. Truck, like it!"

Tembo has been carrying around her little dolly, and oh, she's just as cute as can be. Dadders tried to teach her how to give Dolly huggies and snoofles and kisses, but she hasn't really caught on, and is quite content simply to carry her around in one hand.

Nevertheless, Tembo really does know how much Dolly needs affection. I was sitting on the couch when my baby brought her little baby up to me. Holding her by the feet, Tembo pressed the top of Dolly's head against my mouth, and made kissing noises. So I kissed Dolly's head just as I do Tembo's own, over and over all at once in a great cluster of kisses.

She giggled and giggled. Tembo was thrilled with the game, and I was thrilled with her delight. Because all those kisses that just pour right out of me, that I hardly think about, I just can't help them... it really does matter to her, and in her little mind, what a baby needs above all is kisses. Mama-kisses.

Someday soon she'll figure out that "mama" is a relationship, and she'll start playing mama herself with respect to her dollies. But for now, Mama is simply and only a person, and I am the giver of kisses.

10.14.2006

Productivity

Today I did a boatload of laundry, compared consumer reviews to decide upon the best blender and the best water filter for our money. I carefully planned out the menus for a weeks worth of nutritious, economical meals, and made out a meticulous shopping list.

But now that it's six o'clock, I remember what I haven't done.

Decided what's for dinner.

Good news/Bad news: Is a tantruming toddler sufficient reason for using this emergency exit?

Last night, I had cause to discover first-hand just how very un-quadruple-stroller-friendly Barnes and Noble is.

That is the good news and the bad news all rolled into one, because despite it all, I still like Barnes and Noble, and I adore our new stroller.

And, well... I'm sure that the boys will love their slightly damaged Thomas the Train book.

Thank God it's not a slightly damaged American Girl doll.

Our next outing will be to the zoo.

10.11.2006

Contrariwise

Nathan has discovered the joys of "no."

Sometimes this is played out in the dreaded two-and-a-half tantrums, where he wants what he wants, but oh, not that way, no he doesn't want it that way, not at all, but he HAS to have it, NOOOOOOO! Nothing is satisfactory, short of altering the laws of the universe, maybe going back in time so he would have gone down for his nap earlier or a had little more excercise the previous day. We all feel like that sometimes, I think, and it's quite an enlightening experience to see the jumbled emotions of intense frustration laid out so openly and clearly, in the full glory of their irrationality.

Ah, yes. Tantrums.

But usually, no is a fun word, a delicious word. Sometimes thoughtful, sometimes pedanting, but always matter of fact and measured and congenially decisive.

"Mama, I'm takin' a bath."

"Oh, really, Meepo? That's great!"

He raised one eyebrow at me, in a look of indulgent longsufferring patience.

"Mama," he repeated, this time nodding for emphasis between each word, "I'ma... takin'... a bath."

"Oh, so you're taking a bath?"

It was with triumphant dignity that he grinned up at me and pronounced, simply and definitively...

"No."

Linkworthy

No sooner did my dear husband fix the keyboard, than we all caught the flu. Between the aches and the chills, I haven't had much to say beyond "sniffle, sniffle, cough, blech."

I'm getting better now (though Isaiah and September are coughing this morning) and the brain fog is slowly clearing up.

In the meantime, though, I'll simply leave you with some wise words from Sharon.

This is definitely worth a read.

10.05.2006

NeedingSpace

MySpaceBarIsBroken.HenceThePaucityOfPosts.

InAttemptingToFixTheSpaceBar,IOnlyManagedToMakeTheLetters"M"and"C"NearlyImpossible.

ThankfullyOnlyNearlyOrIWouldn'tEvenBeAbleToSpellOut"SpaceBar"AndExplainMyPredicament.

9.30.2006

7-10 business days.

My life is about to get MUCH easier.

Ever since before September--my, but that's a delightfully ambiguous phrase!--I've been on the lookout for the perfect triple stroller.

This stroller would have two in the back, one in the front, and would fold up to fit in the back of the car.

This stroller does not exist.

Triple strollers come in two varieties. The long train variety that doesn't go around corners, and the side to side to side variety that doesn't go through doorways.

Neither variety really folds up very well, and both cost a small fortune.

Today, I have ordered a quad. Two in the front, two in the back. Five point harnesses for everyone, with room for a friend. And while it really is terribly expensive... believe it or not, it costs about half as much as the typical triple.

So... anyone want to go for a walk?

I am SO excited about this.

9.28.2006

Product Review, Take I: Measuring Spoons

Yesterday, I recieved a big box full of crinkly paper shreds. You know, the kind they use for packing boxes. It also had three 11oz bags of coffee, but for three out of five persons in this household, packing materials are ever so much more exciting than coffee. And what's exciting for them means excitement for everybody. Especially the one with the vaccum cleaner.

I was rather relieved that the box arrived during naptime. But never fear, oh story-hungry readers, our resourceful wuggies found it anyway.

Yes, it was just that sort of day. The sort of day where the boys strip down completely naked and run around like mad-pickles, screaming at the top of their lungs while jumping off of furniture and dismantling the mop... and I think to myself, at least they're getting the wiggles out. The sort of day where I'd contemplate moving to Australia, except that, well, that particular book (a favorite of mine, passed down from my own childhood) is now confetti, useful only as packing material.

So really, you have no reason at all to be glad that the boys found the box--although it really was awfully cute, the way Nathan brought a handful into our bedroom to show us, solemnly announcing "mess"... The day was blogworthy enough as it was. And anyway, this particular box would have resulted in a blog post in any case.

Folgers sent me some of their new Gourmet Selections coffee in exchange for an honest review here on The Wuggy Chronicles. So this morning, as I packed Andy's lunch, at far too early an hour for comfort, especially after a day like yesterday, decided to see if their breakfast blend could salvage the morning.

I know, I know. I should always pack his lunch the night before, on days where he commutes to Pasadena. But see, ever since I figured out how to make yummy mostly-whole-grain rolls, I decided that if I made his sandwiches on my own bread instead of Oroweat, I could save us some dough, so to speak.

Which meant that late last night, after the kids were down, and the babysitter dropped off at home, and I was really quite ready to fall asleep, I was not fixing sandwiches, but baking bread.

Anyway, I was very, very groggy this morning, as I dusted off the coffee machine, and opened up the bag of coffee. We generally like our coffee rather strong, but after a bit of waffling back and forth (I put way too much effort into minor decisions when I'm groggy!) I finally decided to make it as directed the first time, so as to give it a fair review.

I was still putting away the sandwich fixings when Andy came out and poured himself a bowl of cereal. So I hadn't tasted the coffee yet when I put a cup in front of him, and asked his opinion.

My usually opinionated husband had no opinion whatsoever on the taste.

After I took a sip, I knew why. There WAS no taste. It was incredibly, amazingly, insipidly weak. I had no idea what it tasted like, but I did know that next time, I was going to make it at least twice as strong.

Then I looked over at the measuring spoons on the counter, and saw that the tablespoon measure was quite clean, while the half-tablespoon measure was covered in coffee grounds.

And now I understand why most measuring spoon sets do not include half-tablespoon measures.

I was hoping to review some coffee, but unfortunately this morning's experience has only left me qualified to review measuring spoons. Half-tablespoon measures can be very convenient for any and all recipes calling for 1 1/2 tsp. of anything. But as they are easily mistaken for Tablespoon measures (do you have to capitalize the T when you write it out all the way?) the can be hazardous to your morning coffee.

But you know what? After my third cup, I guess maybe I'm starting to like really weak coffee.

Next time, though, I'll make it as directed.

9.26.2006

Fruit Salad

Thanks to Jessica for the insight that frozen fruit makes a great automatic sauce for a fruit salad.

This little bit of improvisation went over very well at dinner tonight. It was just exactly enough to serve two adults and two toddlers.

Toss together in small serving bowl:


1 apple, cut into bite sized pieces
2 banannas, sliced
1 grapefruit, segmented, membranes removed
2 kiwi fruits, skinned and sliced
1/4 cup chopped walnuts
1 Tbsp. fresh mint, chopped

mix together in separate small bowl:

1/2 cup frozen strawberries, thawed and smooshed. (1 cup whole berries, smooshed into 1/2 cup)
2 tsp. maple syrup
1/4 tsp. vanilla extract
Pour strawberry mixture over fruit. Enjoy.

This morning...

...over our morning "cereal in a bowl with milk at the table in chairs" (we're going through a "prepositional stage")...

...Nathan grinned at me an announced

"Mama's super!"

And my heart melted.

Orthodoxy

Andy's very last assignment for his month-long diversity class was to go immerse himself for a few hours in an unfamiliar environment. Somewhere he could experience being "other." Where everyone differed from him, either in terms of race, ethnicity, class, or religion.

The Isamic Institute of Orange County is right down the street from us, so Andy thought that would be an obvious choice. The location was ideal, and even the timing was wonderful, since Friday afternoon was the first big slot of time Andy had available to work on this.

But it turned out that you cannot observe their services without first going through an orientation, and that just didn't fit into Andy's schedule, since, well, Friday afternoon was the first slot of time he had available to work on it.

Thus it was that on Sunday morning we trekked down to Garden Grove to visit an Antiochan Orthodox Church.

It was a very strange experience, and strangest of all in how strange it was not.

We came looking for the experience of being outsiders, very different from everyone else. Instead we found a bunch of people very much like us. Isaiah and September were little angels during the liturgy, but Nathan was quite noisy. I didn't mind waiting out in the narthex with him, though. You can't get angry when your little boy is chattering incessantly about all the crosses and how they remind us that Jesus loves us. And it was so good to spend time with all the other young mothers chasing around their little ones. Families like ours seem to be the norm around there. Young intellectual couples with lots of babies--two toddlers and a bulging belly seemed to be the average family size. Mothers breastfeeding three-year-olds. The gypsy-garbed young woman---adorned with tatoos, piercings... and a head covering---pointed Nathan out to her adorably dred-locked son, and whispered "Look! Another little boy with long hair!"

I felt so very, very normal.

Which is, to be perfectly honest, a rather strange experience for me.

The liturgy, too--the little I saw of it... I expected the beauty, expected the strangeness, but I was completely taken aback by how comfortable it all was.

There was so much beauty, and yet beauty was so obviously not an end in itself, all was meant to draw the mind to Christ, and anything that draws the mind to Christ cannot help but be very beautiful, almost as though by accident, it's that inherent.

The choir was at the back, singing so beautifully, but they stood at the back. They were not the point, they were simply worshipping together with us, facilitating our worship, sweeping us forward with their song, sweeping our souls toward Christ.

The large icons at the front, too, and the dozens upon dozens of smaller icons in clusers along the side walls... all were beautiful and golden and glowing... and decidedly two-dimensional. Which is true, of course, of all icons, lest they decieve the eye into seeing them as more than they truly are, and thus seeing less than there is. As windows to heaven, they must necessarily be flat.

I must say, though, that lovely as they are, I'm quite uncomfortable with the whole idea of icons. And flipping through their pamphlets did little to allay my discomfort. That an icon of Christ would actually share in certain properties of Christ Himself, and serve as a window by which the soul can glimpse heaven... the belief seems blasphemous.

But of course that is precisely what I firmly believe about art in general. When a work of art depicts something, it's really like the thing it depicts, and by participating in and isolating certain qualities of the object, it can teach our soul to see the object in a new way. But it is a very uncomfortable thing indeed think hard about great art about Jesus.

It is strange and disorienting to realize that coming to a reasoned, consistent disagreement with their stance on icons would require as big a shift in my thinking (if not a bigger) as to come to agree with them.

The emphasis on Mary is extremely uncomfortable indeed, though, and I see no potential resolution there.

As for their claims to truly be The Church, I have no basis on which to evaluate them. I was under the impression that the Orthodox Church believes that nobody else is saved. But from the little I've been learning, it does not sound like they deny the existence of true Christians outside Eastern Orthodoxy. They simply claim to be, here on earth, what Protestants believe only exists in heaven. They don't deny that Protestant churches are what they claim to be, they simply claim that the Orthodox Church is something more.

Which turns out to be a much bigger claim than I ever imagined.

In all its branches, Christianity is about both doctrine and practice. While Protestantism leans toward the doctrine side, Eastern Orthodoxy leans more to the practice side. There's a big emphasis on spiritual disciplines, and achieving mystic union with Christ. Christianity isn't just a set of doctrines, with practical applications, it's a skill that can only be learned through observation and mentoring. Suddenly apostolic succession becomes very, very important. You want to learn how to become like Jesus from someone who learned from someone else, who learned from someone else, who learned from Jesus himself.

It seems that it should be a theoretically simple thing to discover whether this claim is institutional only, or a vibrant, living reality. I don't really place a whole lot of stock in apostolic succession in the West, because it has passed through unholy hands. Whatever conclusion you may come to about the rightness of any particular branch of the faith, there is no Western church which you can trust on the basis of pedigree.

Is there a trustworthy pedigree in the East? I have no idea. I'm fairly familiar with the history of Western Christendom, but I know next to nothing about about the history of Eastern Orthodoxy. Does it share a rocky history much like our own? Or is it indeed an unbroken chain of holiness? The latter seems highly unlikely, aside from the profoundly miraculous work of the Holy Spirit.

But I really don't know a thing about it, so I'm quite eager to cast my eye over a few history books.

In the mean time, we're embedded in our own church at Blessed Sacrament, but I think we have much to gain in learning from these other followers of Jesus. So we just might be back Wednesday night.

9.24.2006

Slip-n-Slide

If you think it's fun to splash around in water on a vinyl mat, you should definitely try orange juice on linoleum. So much more slippery... imagine the possibilities!

9.22.2006

All better.

Not only was traffic just fine, but everybody played hooky from Andy's last class, so he got to come home an hour early.

Tembo and I are going to have a grand time this afternoon, just us girls. I'm gonna get me a nice big cup of tea, and do a bunch of menu planning. This month I'm going to add up all the quantities of all the ingredients, so I know exactly what I'm doing. No more guestimating for me... not until I've made a practice of precision, anyway, and thus have developed an accurate sense for these things. I'm also going to add up the expected total cost of various meals in my repertoire. It should be a fun project... I'm quite looking forward to it. I wonder if there will be time to squeeze in a bubble bath, too?

And best of all, when the boys return this even, probably a bit the worse for the wear after their vaccinations, I will be full of love and patience and kisses for them once again.

1 hr. 50 min.

More or less.

Traffic had better be good, today.

I love my wuggies dearly, but I have been on mommy duty for entirely too long.

The moment you walk in the door, dear, they're all yours.

And now, if you'll excuse me, I'm going to go attempt to separate the clean laundry from the dirty laundry.

I'm postponing all teaching moments about the difference between clothing and confetti for some other time when I'm rested enough to tell the difference between joi de vive, and willfull destructiveness.

9.21.2006

Saturday

It's all going to be better on Saturday.

Last night, while Andy was off at the computer lab, writing a paper, the kids were asking about him. Where's Dadders? Where'd'e go?

I assured them not to fear, Dadders will be home in a few hours.

Of course, you'll be in bed by then, but you can see him... well... no, not in the morning, but when he gets home from work.

It wasn't until he kissed me goodbye this morning, at 5am, that I realized that wasn't going to happen, either.

See you at 9:15, honey.

Saturday, kiddos. You can see him on Saturday. And the class will be over, no more papers to write, no more observation hours to set up and attend. Saturday.

Actually, I guess you get to see him tomorrow, too. He gets off work at noon, and he's coming straight home to take you in for your shots.

But let's not think about that right now, on Saturday, we're going to the zoo.

Because starting on Saturday, it isn't going to BE a zoo around here.

Not for the next two months, anyway.

9.19.2006

So much for chivalry

Nathan knows that when a lady sits down, a gentleman ought to pull a chair out for her.

After all, how else are you going to keep her from stealing YOUR SEAT!?

***IMPORTANT NOTICE***

No babies were harmed in the making of this post. Situation was intercepted, and not a moment too soon. And Nathan found himself sitting in... a different chair.

9.18.2006

Antiques

There's no way I'd admit to this, except that it's just so funny. Last night, the only way I managed to get dinner on the table was with the aid of the Antiques Roadshow. It's a heinous thing to snatch away these precious moments of childhood, and squander them without purpose... but I decided that dinner might be of more use to them than that hour of cognitive development, crucial though it might be. It turns out that the wuggies disagreed with me on all counts, and spent dinner politely requesting that please I serve them cookies and goldfish crackers rather than a luscious, velvety homemade macaroni-and-cheese casserole with just a hint of garlic. Admittedly, it did have rather too much romano this time--I'll post the recipe when I work out the right proportions--but still! All they ate, in fact, were the beets. Ah, the joyous serendipities of Mystery Can Night.

At any rate, the wuggies were not too pleased with my efforts to make them a nourishing meal, but they greatly enjoyed being plopped in front of the safest-looking show on the tube, and learning all about how to identify a Tiffany vase, and all about the hideous necklaces Lucille Ball had the misfortune of wearing, and how probably it was a gift, not because it was so tacky, but because she never would have bought anything nearly so expensive.

And they learned lots of other stuff, too, apparently. After dinner, Nathan began carrying around a rather beat-up carseat cover I'd brought in to wash. He proudly showed his find to Auntie Sarah.

"Antique!"

9.16.2006

Whole Wheat Rolls

I'm rather of the opinion that all-purpose flour might better be called "no-purpose" flour. It's a sort of jack-of-all-trades-master-of-none. You can use it for anything... but it's just not quite ideal. For yeast breads, where you really need well-developed glutein, bread flour yeilds far better results. And for quick breads, where you need to be careful to avoid too much kneading lest the glutein make it tough, whole wheat flour works quite nicely and is ever so much more nutritious. Lately, whenever I make biscuits, I've been just replacing ALL of the white flour with whole wheat, and making no other adjustments to my normal recipe. And they turn out great. They actually come out lighter that way.

Of course, I do have to admit to using all-purpose flour for cakes and pastries and sauces... but only because I'm not a serious enough baker to go out and buy cake flour and pastry flour and figure out how to make a lumpless white sauce with cornstarch.

But this post isn't about all-purpose flour. This is about whole wheat flour, and how I finally figured out how to make beautifully fluffy rolls, with all that whole-grain nutty goodness.

The key is gluten, and thoroughly mixing it into your dry flour. Sadly, your regular grocery store probably hasn't even heard of gluten, and I haven't seen it at Trader Joe's, either. I get it at Henry's Market, and I know I've seen it at other health-food stores.

Mix thoroughly in large bowl:

2 3/4 c. whole wheat flour
1 1/2 c. bread flour (all-purpose if you MUST)
1/4 c. wheat gluten

Set flour mixture aside.

Place in bottom of bread machine:

1 1/4 c. water
2 large eggs

Sprinkle flour mixture over eggs and water.

Add:

1/4 c. brown sugar
1 tsp. salt
1 Tbsp. dry active yeast
3 Tbsp. butter

Set machine to dough cycle.

When dough is complete, form into rolls and arrange on a buttered baking sheet. Or casserole dish. Or whatever. Let rise until doubled, about 45 min. Bake at 350 until golden brown, around 15-20 minutes.

Enjoy with a nice big blueberry-peach-walnut smoothie. Such a nice, refreshing, low-key lunch!

=)

AND... if you happen to forget the yeast...

it makes an AMAZING flatbread.

Not that I ever forget ingredients or anything...

9.14.2006

Polyphony

Sometimes, around the dinner table, we sing grace. Like we did on special occasions back home growing up, and always I dream of the day when our little family can sing in four part harmony. Andy holds down the melody, and I experiment wildly, a different descant every time. The harmonic freedom is glorious... but really, there's only so much you can do, and I dream of adding more voices to the mix.

Tonight, I think I got my dream. It wasn't four parts, since Andy had to work late, and I'm not so sure that it was harmony. But whatever it was, it was glorious.

As I sang "God is great and God is good, and we thank Him for this food..." Nathan sang "God, God, food, Tembo get in chair...," and all the while we were singing, Isaiah sang a sevenfold Amen, interjected with frantic exhortations to his brother to keep holding hands.

And oh, it was glorious.

9.12.2006

Duck out of water

We've been out of the duck stage for a while now. Gone are the days when Isaiah would crouch in the hallway, blanket draped over his head like a jedi's hood, and quack to passersby. Gone, too, are the days when the ducks were the primary attraction of any excursion. Now the zoo is about monkeys and the leopard, and the park is about the swings and the slide, and above all the climbing.

But ducks are still very important, nonetheless.

And ducks should be in the water.

There were lots of ducks last time we went to the park, and they weren't in the water.

There was much sobbing.

9/12

I vividly remember that awful morning. Sharon and I had just returned from a jog, and were sitting in the Horton lobby together, helping one another work on memorizing the book of Romans. (A noble task of which I only finished a chapter or two, but which I do believe my dear and virtuous friend accomplished in entirety...) There was quite a crowd watching television, absurd for 6:30 am., and rather annoying. Slowly I became aware that Sharon wasn't paying any attention to my recitation, eyes glued to the television screen. I turned around to see what was going on, and slowly I became aware that this wasn't a horror flick, wasn't a spoof, but a live news broadcast. The reporters at the site were as bewildered as I. All across the nation, we watched together as the burning tower crumbled, and as a second plane crashed into its twin.

And then the Pentagon.

And then...

An empty field in rural Pennsylvania, somewhere in Somerset County. The heroes of flight 93 were a light and an inspiration, a shining ray of hope on this dark, dark morning.

I remember the next morning, too, wondering if I would see smoke on the horizon, and wondering if it would be from Anaheim to the east or Los Angeles in the west.

But there was no smoke. Our safety has not been incidental, nor has it been cheap.

And today, the day after 9/11, I want to say thank you.

9.10.2006

Both and.

Already not yet.

Death and resurrection don't follow a straightforward chronology.

At least not the sort I expect.

And always I am startled at this strange admixture of being and becoming,

confused, awed, amazed, and perplexed

at what it is to be

human.

9.09.2006

Beware the leaven of the brioche dough.

I've emerged victorious from a long and rather gruesome battle with a small ball of brioche dough.

Word to the wise: never eat raw bread dough if you've been exposed to a virus.

I've always felt a touch of sorrowful affection for the thousands of tiny creatures who give their lives to make my bread light and fluffy.

No more.

9.01.2006

It's all Greek for me!

One very busy afternoon last week, I stopped at Trader Joes to pick up some pizza dough for a quick dinner.

I ended up leaving with a whole shopping cart full of nutritious goodies... but no pizza dough.

You see, it turns out that they sell pita bread at Trader Joes. And not the nasty Sara Lee stuff, or even the quite nice pitas under the Sahara label. Oh no. These were scrumptiously fresh, covered in sesame seeds... mmm-mmm.

Last time ground beef was on sale for .99/lb, Andy cooked up a HUGE batch of seasoned patties for gyros. Inauthentic, I know, but SO yummy, even when you sub out the lamb with beef. The idea was that on busy nights we could just defrost a few patties, stir some cucumber and mint into yogurt, throw it all into pitas with some veggies, and have yummy nutritious meal pretty much effortlessly.

(Yes, I know he's wonderful, and no, you can't have him.)

But the grocery stores in our new neighborhood don't sell pita bread. So I was going to have to make my own pitas for the gyros. Which is certainly well worth the time... if you have the time. And the whole point was to have food for when there just wasn't enough time. It was all very depressing.

Somehow it never occurred to us to check at Trader Joes.

Anyway, all that is a very long and round-about way of saying that I suddenly found myself at Trader Joes, looking for yogurt for the sole purpose of making gyros. There were all sorts of other reasons why I needed yogurt, but since it was all spur-of-the moment and I didn't have my grocery list with me, I was only actually thinking about gyro-making. So that is why I passed right over the regular plain yogurt, and despite having no idea in the world what it was, bought "Greek-style" yogurt.

I have no idea what I expected, but this was definitely not it. I guess I must have been expecting something resembling regular yogurt.

And this does not.

Although I suppose you might say that regular yogurt does resemble Greek yogurt, in a shadowy sort of way, like lamps resemble suns and housecats resemble lions.

Rich and thick and creamy and flavorful... this is what yogurt is meant to be.

And if your parents just so happened to have brought you a jar of wildflower honey from a little bee farm in Arizona... who needs ice cream?

It just puts yogurt into a whole 'nother category.

It's a good news, bad news, really bad news sort of day.

The good news is that since Nathan's tummy bug was quite shortlived, and last night Isaiah was done throwing up by morning, I have high hopes that Tembo will also get well within a few hours.

The bad news is that I've been so busy giving baths and changing clothes--not to mention making arrangments for holiday weekend dental emergencies!--that I haven't gotten around to steaming the carpet in the boys room. (I have washed everybody's sheets though.)

And the really bad news, of course, is that we exposed everybody on Thursday.

So if any of your kids catch it, I'm awfully sorry...

...and you can borrow our carpet steamer.

=/